I don’t have to be the fastest. All I have to do is to start and stay the course. Finishing takes care of itself.
This affirmation came to me the other day about running my first marathon this Fall. If you like, you can use this re-word (below) of my affirmation in manifesting your love.
I don’t have to be the fastest in manifesting my love. All I have to do is to be open and stay the course. Coming together with my soulmate is guaranteed. All of the work I’ve done so far has accumulated and is now creating my breakthrough.
I’ve learned a lot from endurance sports and dance that has served me well in relating and love.
- Get started. Become clear about a desire and sign up for it. Write down your intentions, be willing to put what you want into words, images, feeling. Follow that up with an action that makes a commitment to that goal.
- Start where you are. Once you've set the goal, refocus on what you can do to move in that direction. Break a big goal down into smaller chunks. Whether it’s learning a new style of dance, running your first 5K or marathon, or entering the dating world, it helps if you have mini milestones that feel achievable to you. If it seems too big for you to do right now or you’re feeling the lack of your goal, you need to pay special attention to this one. If it’s love. Look for the love that’s already in your life. Develop a loving, intimate relationship with yourself so that the thought of spending time alone is as appealing as spending it with another. Developing a habit of focusing on what you can do while maintaining a big vision is key.
- Be willing to be a beginner. Start with the basics. You will need to do this over and over again. Realize though that you're always started from a new place or a higher perspective than the last time. I've learned that I pretty much need the same approach for any race. It’s just that I have a bigger mileage base that I’m starting with.
- Practice what you know and be willing to try something new. This is most important.
- Celebrate what you’re doing well. Notice the progress, no matter how small. What you focus on tends to create more of the same. Find your own way of giving yourself credit for what you’re doing well. You can journal or log your successes. Many support groups have a star system for achievements. If you have others to share this with, that’s great. It’s not necessary though. And, it’s a good thing to become your own best friend.
- Acknowledge any setbacks from a bigger perspective. Instead, remind yourself that you’re learning and re-read #5.
- Refuse to compare yourself with anyone except yourself. And sometimes, be willing not to compare at all. Every day is a new day. You are where you are because of what you need. We each have things that are either easier or more difficult for us to grasp. Look at your own progress over time. There will be big leaps and little steps with any goal. Expecting to leap into something completely unfamiliar without having to learn anything is not only unrealistic, it sets you up for disappointment. This is why it’s good to journal our progress.
- Give yourself a rest day. In athletics, rest is as much of the training plan as the workout. Depending on where you are in your development and growth, you will either need more or less. Not resting when you need to rest, can result in injury and/or setbacks. Listen to your inner guidance. This is especially important for high achievers. If you’ve been dating and need a rest from it, listen. Tell yourself that you have plenty of time because you do. Often after a day or two of rest, we can approach what was difficult with a new attitude and result.
- Stay the course and be open to more. Gentle tenacity is the most important ingredient. I say gentle because there will be times when you will need to practice #8. Patience goes hand in hand with stick-to-it-iveness. If you stay the course, you will get to your destination or something better. For everyone there comes a day when we reap what we’ve sown. Like magic, our work accumulates and reveals a greater experience of love or capacity that we couldn’t see before we started.
If you’d like to open up to more and greater, I offer FREE support in applying Kathryn Alice’s 9 magnets for love through the Love Will Find You Yahoo support group. You can join by clicking on the icon at the bottom of the page. I also offer 1:1 coaching sessions for a fee. Click Coaching at the top for more.
Blessings and love,
Lisa
