Single For the Holidays? - 8 Ways to EnJOY it!

If you are single right now, you may be feeling it more than ever around this time of the year.  Holidays focus on partnership, family gatherings, and holiday parties.  Even the most self-assured single can feel a little bit blue or isolated.

The best attractant for joy is to find the joy wherever you are now.

The truth is, for every single person who wishes they weren’t alone, there’s at least one other person who is wishing that they had a little bit of unscheduled time to themselves.  

Even you, once you’re matched up with your Soulmate, may long for some of the alone time that you are wishing away right now. Below are a few suggestions for making the most of where you are now.

--Be willing to feel good about the holidays.

Tell your Higher Power that you are willing to feel good. Without realizing it, we often set ourselves up by bringing our past into our now. Stating that you’re willing to have a different experience is very powerful; it creates an opportunity for happy options and opportunities to start flooding into your experience. 

--Take an honest look at what is meaningful to YOU.

Refuse to fill the time with gatherings that will drag you down just to say that you had something to do.  Instead invest a little time exploring what you may have done in the past that was pleasing to you.

Or, journal about something that you’d like to do that you’ve never been able to do before because of other commitments and obligations. Give yourself permission to explore.

Many singles opt to take a vacation during this time or go on a retreat instead of joining in the hustle and bustle of the season. You may find that your true happiness is not found in the hype of the season.

--Initiate some action towards what you want.

Pick 2 or 3 of your ideas and start exploring the possibilities. Be proactive yet relaxed. Trying to force your vision for your holiday will only generate more anxiety and frustration.

One Thanksgiving, I decided to take my son to Kripalu and participate in the Circus Yoga program. I had wanted to do it for years but had always gotten caught up in holiday obligations. Not only did we enjoy that time but it forged a bond between us that would not have happened had I opted for a traditional holiday.

--Create a wish list for flying solo.

Keep a running list of things that you would like to do that you can do solo. You may want to take art or music classes, learn to dance, rent or see a particular movie, go to a fancy restaurant, see a show, or just stay home and read a book. The trick is to have something handy for you to consider when the opportunity arises.  Often, people who follow this tip realize that it was a key step in coming together with their soulmate.  The happiness you feel in immersing yourself in an activity that is fun often brings you together with others who share the same interest; it is also a major attractant for love.

--Pretend you are with your Soulmate.

As you fall asleep every night, connect with your soulmate on the inner and tell them you love them. Then, repeat these words out loud to yourself as you imagine yourself being hugged or embraced by them.

I love you “your name.”

Shop for and buy a card, a CD, or some other gift for your soulmate.  Feel the joy of having someone to give this item to. Della Reese, a famous actress, used a similar technique. She replaced her bed and linens and acted as if her soulmate was already in her life. He did come forth and they’ve been married for almost thirty years.

--Give of yourself.

Who you are is more valuable than you know. Give your time through volunteering at a shelter or a nursing home.  Or in a less formal way, just spend time connecting with others by giving a kiss, a hug, or listening to someone who needs your presence.  No one does it exactly like you. Do what comes spontaneously and enjoy it; take note of the love that is already in your life.

--Give thanks.

Gratitude always raises our vibration and tends to make us more aware of what we have to be thankful for. Having your survival needs met to the degree that you want to experience love and have a soulmate relationship is huge. 

--Be open to the unexpected.

Look for the magic of the holiday season. It’s all around us. Without having a heavy agenda, open yourself to the idea that love could walk into your life during the holiday season. One couple I met years ago, who were happily married, met on New Year’s Eve.  That meant that they went to the party as singles, right?

If you're interested in setting up a strong intention for a truly happy and joyful holiday season, sign up for my teleseminar, Order Up a LOVE-FILLED Holiday on December 7th.