Usually people use this little phrase for making themselves
feel miserable. It is not intentional. It is a learned habit that we picked up
along the way in our growth and development. Although it is helpful from time
to time to introspect and consider the choices we have made, it is not helpful
if this questioning creates an environment of self-doubt and loathing.
What if is often used for questioning our judgment or choices
in life.
Example: What if he/she was my soulmate? What if that was
the best I could hope for?
What if is also used to question our yearnings and
desires.
Example: What if I am meant to be alone? What if I do not have a soulmate? What if I am asking for too much or there is no one who could live with me?
What if this phrase were turned on its heel and used for
a completely different purpose? (Did you catch that one?)
For example,
What if you have not done anything wrong or made any
mistakes and that everything you have ever done or experienced has been part of
your becoming who you are meant to be? Maybe the only reason you are unhappy is
that you are temporarily over focused on judging your past and your present
with a negative, self-deprecating lens.
What if you could see where you are heading, and you can
see that you’re happy and fulfilled, would you feel differently about where you
are and where you have been?
What if you started looking at all the good that you’ve
accomplished?
What if you noticed that even with those accomplishments
there were times of self-doubt that you have since forgotten?
What if your relationship or dating history has helped
you clarify what you want and/or develop parts of yourself so that you could
recognize and receive your soulmate?
What if your life, right now as it is, is on the verge
of a breakthrough such that you’ll wonder why you ever doubted yourself?
What if all that you have experienced and moved through in
your own self-development, growth and unfoldment has assisted you in developing
empathy and skills so that you can encourage others to do the same?
What if you can use these two little words to put an end
to self-questioning that pulls you down? Instead, what if you are
magnificently made and you are headed in the right direction? What
if you listened to your inner guidance more often, noted it, and
verified its accuracy? What if you started seeing
progress and improvement?
Get it? Now get on with it and try it for a bit.
Much love,
Lisa
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