This expression came to mind as a way of describing the impatience that can crop up after you have set an intention for love, your soul call. You know what you want, and yet there is this sense of living in constant anticipation of getting there. Anticipation can be fun. In this situation however the anticipation is filled with lots of questions and nitpicking. You are not enjoying the journey. You just want to get there, and you want to get there NOW.
There are times when the demand to clear out all obstacles will produce immediate results. Those situations are generally areas of our lives where we have been indecisive or wishy washy.
There are also times when that type of demand will not work. It happens when we are seeing the lack of what we want more than we are believing that it is already given. Since we all experience this feeling at some time or another; I've listed a few things that you can do to help you through this period.
There are times when the demand to clear out all obstacles will produce immediate results. Those situations are generally areas of our lives where we have been indecisive or wishy washy.
There are also times when that type of demand will not work. It happens when we are seeing the lack of what we want more than we are believing that it is already given. Since we all experience this feeling at some time or another; I've listed a few things that you can do to help you through this period.
- Go deeper. It’s possible that your focus is only on the destination and you have not fully explored what you will do once you have this person in your life. Start exploring in your mind what your life will be like, the things you will do together, and include everything from the mundane to the magical. Make sure you take time to write these things down. Later you will have proof that you can use to shore up your faith for your next dream.
- Distract yourself. If thinking about your soulmate and your relationship together has you wondering where they are instead of reveling in all of the things you will explore together, you may want to use the distraction technique. Many parents have used this to help their children get through long trips. It involves keeping your mind busy with anything just long enough for it to stop questioning and undermining your faith. One of the best ways to do this is to start with a list of things that you have been putting off. This could even include things that you have put off doing until you find a mate, such as buying a home, shopping for your wedding gown or honeymoon destination, cleaning up that closet or basement, taking a class or going on a trip that you have been putting on the back burner, you name it. Taking this type of action has brought love to the door of many men and women. Think of how many people have met in the supermarket, on a trip, etc.
- Enjoy the journey. People forget that we often spend more time on the journey than we do at the destination. On the road to soulmate love you will meet many people and go places with them. Remembering to enjoy each connection and relationship on the way will not only enrich your experience but it will also help speed up the time it takes to connect with your true love. Even if you have taken a side trip for a bit in a long term relationship that did not work out, it has had a purpose for you in becoming ready for your love. If you do not see it now, there is no need to force it. You will see it in time. Instead, find the part of yourself that wants to feel better. At first it may feel good to get angry (without taking it out on anyone) and you may need that. You may also need to let your feelings out in your journal or through the help of a counselor/coach. The idea is to get better at moving forward and letting go more easily while still staying open to love. Take steps that reinforce having more joy in your life.
- Prepare. At the beginning of every relationship, practical things such as shopping, paying bills, and cooking meals go by the wayside. Use your free time to get your house in order. Pay down your bills and set up online bill notification. Clean up your email. Make your bedroom hospitable for your partner. Go shopping for a gift or card to give to your love later. See friends and family that you have not seen in a bit while you have lots of free space in your calendar.
- What’s next? Often, people forget that any one destination only leads to more. Start contemplating what having love in your life would contribute towards your spiritual path. What new adventures would you have together and as an individual (if freedom is important)? As we stabilize our lives by expressing more love in relationship, often we find this frees up even more energy and we are able to bring more of ourselves into our work, creativity, and our community. Think about how your soulmate relationship would impact others who are looking for love as well. Would it encourage others to have hope again? Know that every pioneer cuts a path that eventually serves others as much as themselves. Start contemplating this now and ask yourself what would happen next. You may be surprised at what comes to mind.
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